Looking on the Bright Side...Divorce Aphorism for the Day

   Almost daily I find myself listening to a client who is having a difficult time dealing with the loss that inevitably accompanies a divorce.  In trying to comfort these clients, I sometimes find myself also at a loss in finding the right words of consolation.
   So, my search lead me to words from, perhaps an unlikely source, but nonetheless, these are the words of the beautiful Eva Longoria who, in spite of her gorgeous appearance, professional and financial success, also knows the pain of love loss, but approaches it with a healthy view.  Here goes:
                 "One thing I did learn is you don't hold on to the bitterness of the loss;
                    you hand on to the beauty of the love." 


    What a wonderful was to move on.


    More divorce aphorisms to come in the future.






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Why If Florida Same Sex Couples Marry in Haste They May Repent in Leisure

    

                 FINALLY!!!!  Barring any legal maneuvering that is not anticipated, same sex couples will be able to “tie the knot” once the clerks of Florida’s counties begin issuing marriage licenses. 

                Just for a brief legal background (if you are interested) a number of circuit court judges throughout the state had already ruled that Florida’s law banning gay marriages was unconstitutional. These judges include Miami-Dade Circuit Court Judge Sarah Zabel, who last July ruled in favor of six same-sex couples who sued a year ago to have the Miami-Dade Clerk issues them marriage licenses, and Broward Circuit Court Judge Dale Cohen, who ruled in August that Florida’s gay marriage ban was unconstitutional, and last month granted the first divorce to a Florida same sex couple who were married in another state.   However, a series of legal maneuvers stayed (legal for “stopped”) the judges’ ruling from actually taking effect pending a ruling from Federal Judge Robert Hinkle.  Although Judge Hinkle had already ruled Florida’s ban unconstitutional, he stayed (again) that ruling from taking effect until the state of Florida had exhausted its right to appeal the decision.

                According to Judge Hinkle, time’s up, and all clerks may issues marriage licenses to same sex couples as of 12:00 midnight on Tuesday, January 6, 2015. Media reports indicate that certain clerks’ offices and other authorities plan to preside over large same sex weddings that very same day…some as early as 3:00 a.m.!

                Now here’s the rub.  I know these ruling are long past due, and same sex couples are eager to share in the same benefits that married heterosexual couples enjoy.  But what these anxious couples may not be considering is that, in spite of the many benefits of marriage, so too are there enormous burdens.  Someone once told me that one who marries in haste repents in leisure.  Ask anyone who has gone through a divorce, and I think they will agree

                 Fortunately, even among the six couples who sued last year in Miami-Dade, according to an article in the Sun Sentinel, only one couple plans to move quickly and marry.   

                So, what does time give to these couples who have been legally barred from enjoying wedded bliss?  Well, it gives them time to consider a prenuptial agreement.  If you review some of my previous blogs about prenuptial agreements, you will see that they do not only address the “what ifs” of divorce, but many other issues that, if discussed and resolved in advance, may help create a happier union.

              Over my next series of blogs, I will point out many of those potential burdens and why a prenuptial agreement may be the first thing to plan before the wedding.   It will be worth the wait!


    The Law Office of Cindy S. Vova, P.A. in  Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, provides compassionate and caring legal advice to all  families we represent.  We welcome all the new "legal" families to Florida and look forward to serving you.  Please see our website by clicking the attached link to learn more about our firm. 
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